Mother Teresa once said that loneliness is the ‘Leprosy of modern society’ and the most severe form of poverty. It is ironic that even though we have more ways than ever to communicate with others, almost a quarter of adults regularly experience loneliness. The rates are higher amongst younger adults.

TV, internet and social media have made many of us so self-contained that face-to-face interactions can sometimes feel awkward and difficult.

Even if we live with others or have close friends or family members, we can still be lonely for THAT special person and the relationship and closeness we shared. Suddenly, there are big gaps in our lives that we are aware of, every moment of every day.

For those who have lost a partner, coming home to an empty house can feel unbearable; many particularly struggle with long, dark winter nights. Having a TV or radio on can help to fill the silence.

There are many responses to loneliness; some are helpful, whilst others may not serve us well in the long term, like turning to alcohol. We all need something to lean on in life and there is no shame in that. Many find support and comfort in faith, friendship, a job or volunteering, interests and hobbies, music and artistic activities. Of course, we can never replace what our loved one brought to our life, but finding the right coping strategies which are beneficial and not harmful can be a way of filling the loneliness with connection, purpose and fulfilment.

Good ideas include regular physical exercise, going outdoors, gardening, going to the gym, or joining a sports club, exercise class, book group, choir, art class, the University of the Third Age, or ‘men’s shed’. You could volunteer at a local charity or get involved in community initiatives. Pet ownership can be beneficial and therapeutic – although be aware that it is a long-term commitment. Dog-walking is good exercise and a great way to meet people. Pets are wonderful company, giving us a reason to get up in the morning and a friendly welcome when we get home.

Perhaps also consider talking to a counsellor or wellbeing professional. There are many private options, or your GP can refer you.

Join one of Rosedale’s Bereavement Support Groups- all groups are confidential and offer a place to talk and connect with others who are also grieving. Call 01379 640 810 to reserve your free place.